So today I am going to try and remember all the good stuff before I write all the bad stuff so that I can remember that this to shall pass.
Xander has been attending the same school for a while this is actually his third year here and amazingly enough even though I was pulling him off my roof at the beginning of the first year up until 3 weeks ago he has not had a problem going. Oh sure there were the occasional slow getting started days, but over all he has made leaps and bounds. He had always been about a year and a half behind and the last three years he has all but closed the gap. He is ready way above grade level and his comprehension is right on grade level, this is amazing for any student but for one that had struggled to even talk when he was first diagnosed to be reading and be understanding right a long with his class mates, well needless to say I am very proud of him. He has always struggled with the concept of math, for some kids with Autism or Aspergers Math and Science are the areas that they can achieve in but for Xander these areas are a struggle. He is finally understanding how numbers work and how they corresponds with time and money. Thank goodness, because as he understands more he ask for less and he is on time (most of the time). One thing that he has become extremely good at is his art. Being an artist I love the fact that he has always wanted to draw, but at his age of 10 he shows more promise and talent than some of the student I was in college with. He has more patients with his art than I have ever had, I expect perfection the first time and he will work at until it is just the way he likes it, it does not need to be perfect.
The last three weeks have been tough, he is back to wanting to stay home everyday, making himself vomit to convince me he is sick so I wont send him to school. he has been bullied in the past and is know feeling bullied by more than just the kids at school. His choir teacher yelled at him, his school counselor is talking the tough guy approach and making threats instead of implementing a positive reinforcement approach. These are isolated events not something that happens all the time but I know he feels ganged up on. When he struggles I struggle. It tears my heart apart and I don't know what to do for him.